"To Know Him Is to Love Him" is a song written by Phil Spector, inspired by the words on his father's gravestone, "To Know Him Was to Love Him".[3] It was first recorded by the only vocal group of which he was a member,[2]The Teddy Bears. The single spent three weeks at No. 1 on the Billboard Hot 100chart in 1958,[4] while reaching No. 2 on the UK's New Musical Express chart.[5]Peter & Gordon and Bobby Vinton later each experienced chart success with the song (with its title and lyrics altered to the gender-neutral "To Know You Is to Love You"), in 1965 and 1968, respectively.
In 1965, Peter and Gordon released a version of the song, titled "To Know You Is to Love You". Peter and Gordon's version spent 10 weeks on the UK Singles Chart, peaking at No. 5,[9] while also reaching No. 5 on Canada's "RPM Play Sheet".[10] In the United States, the song spent seven weeks on the Billboard Hot 100 chart, peaking at No. 24.[11]
In 1969, Bobby Vinton released a version of the song, titled "To Know You Is to Love You". Vinton's version spent seven weeks on the Billboard Hot 100 chart, peaking at No. 34,[14] while reaching No. 8 on Billboard's Easy Listening chart,[15] No. 16 on Canada's RPM 100,[16] and No. 6 on RPM's Adult Contemporary chart.[17]
In 1987, Dolly Parton, Linda Ronstadt, and Emmylou Harris, collectively called Trio, recorded a cover of the song, including it on their Grammy Award-winning, multi-platinum album Trio. The group would go on to release it as the album's first single, topping both the Canadian and American country charts. The single peaked at No. 1 on the Billboard Hot Country Songs chart for the week of May 16, 1987. The accompanying music video, directed by Star Wars creator George Lucas (Ronstadt's boyfriend at the time), aired regularly on CMT and GAC.[19][20]
The Beatles recorded two versions, both retitled "To Know Her Is to Love Her". One version was on their January 1962 audition tapes with Decca, not released during the band's existence and not included on Anthology 1. The second version was recorded on 16 July 1963 for the Pop Go the Beatles radio show and was not officially released until 1994, on their Live at the BBC compilation album. John Lennon recorded his own version of the song in 1973 ("To Know Her Is to Love Her"), but it would not see release until the 1986 posthumous compilation Menlove Ave.[22]
The Shirelles included a version on their album The Shirelles Sing the Golden Oldies (1964).
In 1972, Jody Miller released her version as a single and on the album There's a Party Goin' On.[23] Miller's version reached No. 18 on Billboard's Hot Country Singles chart,[24] No. 20 on Record World's Country Singles Chart,[25] and No. 21 on the Cash Box Country Top 75 chart.[26] It also reached No. 12 on Canada's RPM Country Playlist.[27]
Gary Glitter did a cover, retitled "To Know You Is to Love You", on his album Touch Me (1973).